I had to turn off the comments section on the last post, because some moron spammed me. If you want to comment on "A Truly Epic Misadventure", please feel free to post on this thread.
I've been thinking about the whole situation, and I realized a few things:
First:
You know, his wife won't let him leave the house except to go to his mother's, she takes all his money and gives him an allowance... she won't even kiss him anymore. I figure, if he didn't do this with me, it would have been someone. And obviously he doesn't feel guilty about it, since he wants to see me again tomorrow, so why should I? I haven't decided whether I should see him again before my October break, but that's beside the point.
...There was a second point, but I've forgotten it. I know that I'm really just trying to convince myself that what happened wasn't wrong. I mean, it wasn't right, and it wasn't smart, but as long as the wife doesn't find out, no one really gets hurt. I don't want a relationship with him...
The problem, of course, being that he *wants* to tell his wife.
See? I'm like a moth light for crazies.
In happier news, I move up north on Saturday. Yays! I'm done work on wednesday, and the following wednesday (the 24th), the new washer and dryer will be arriving! Sweet...Front load, large capacity... *drools*.
I get my hair cut on Tuesday of this week. I'm thinking of a more Tori Amos look this time around. Long-er than I usually leave it, more focused on the curl, a deeper red, maybe some highlights... Or highlights later, or something. I want to do something more...more feminine this time. I'm thinking I might want to lose the militant attitude for something more... friendly. That's the recomendation at least. People don't want to stop and get to know me if they have to break a rock-hard surface to get to the chewy, melty centre...
Why do I always make myself sound like a candy bar?
Anyways, I have to be up in 5 hours. I should go sleep. Tomorrow, if I get time, I'll explaine the science of Golf Cart Polo.
Shwing!
4 comments:
The way I see it you are not a marriage wrecker, although the guy and his wife seem to be doing quite a fine job of it themselves...
That doesn't mean that continuing to see him is a good idea, though, unless you guys clean up a few things beforehand. The most important thing IMHO is that you and the guy agree about what you two want out of this, and I'm not so sure that you do. He should also decide whether he wants to come clean with his wife and then follow that decision, but that isn't your responsibility.
Good luck and take care!
...and it's not your problem. Ultimately, his life is what it is.
Opinion: his life doesn't sound very forward-based. I don't mean that in a horrible way, I mean that in a "you're not headed in the same direction" sort of way. He slept with you; his wife is pregnant. Whether or not you choose to continue to see him right now really rests on your willingness to continue.
I have a code of not sleeping with married people that works for me; but this is one of the reasons why. I don't like getting in that dynamic. Like it or not, you signed up for Sparky-Drama with a capital D .
Put everything else aside for a moment, and think of three things: knowing what you know of him right now, JUST HIM - not his situation, just his personality and person, are you willing to get involved with someone who behaves like he behaves? OCD, medical issues, everything?
And if the answer is YES, and you want to continue seeing him, you will work out the bits and pieces later.
If I hear a, "Well, it was okay, but I think I just wanted to sleep with him", then walk off and apologize, and cut it off clean, because unless this is going to go anywhere, there's less attached men out there you can pick up on.
...and it's not your problem. Ultimately, his life is what it is.
Opinion: his life doesn't sound very forward-based. I don't mean that in a horrible way, I mean that in a "you're not headed in the same direction" sort of way. He slept with you; his wife is pregnant. Whether or not you choose to continue to see him right now really rests on your willingness to continue.
I have a code of not sleeping with married people that works for me; but this is one of the reasons why. I don't like getting in that dynamic. Like it or not, you signed up for Sparky-Drama with a capital D .
Put everything else aside for a moment, and think of three things: knowing what you know of him right now, JUST HIM - not his situation, just his personality and person, are you willing to get involved with someone who behaves like he behaves? OCD, medical issues, everything?
And if the answer is YES, and you want to continue seeing him, you will work out the bits and pieces later.
If I hear a, "Well, it was okay, but I think I just wanted to sleep with him", then walk off and apologize, and cut it off clean, because unless this is going to go anywhere, there's less attached men out there you can pick up on.
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